This week we zoomed in on boundary setting and keeping.
9:01 | Welcome to our weekly church social media chat on this last Tuesday in July! #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:01 chsocm |
9:02 | Hello from North TX! #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:02 SmilingKIJ |
9:02 | If this is your first time joining us, don’t even try to follow every tweet. You can always review the transcript. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:02 chsocm |
9:02 | If you’re returning, welcome. If you tend toward non-participant observation, please consider some active participation tonight. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:02 chsocm |
9:02 | Anyone joining while on vacation?!? #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:02 chsocm |
9:03 | @SmilingKIJ Hi, Kathi -- I'm in Grapevine. Neighbors! #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:03 azrork |
9:03 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:03 mirgray |
9:04 | We'll get started in a minute with self-introductions, but as ever, we begin with prayer. Let us pray . . . #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:04 chsocm |
9:04 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:04 RchrdBott |
9:04 | Gracious God, as we come together, grant us the grace to be united in faith and good will in our service to you. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:04 chsocm |
9:04 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:04 maryanndimand |
9:04 | We give thanks for every opportunity to build community & reveal your presence online as well as face-to-face. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:04 chsocm |
9:05 | @SmilingKIJ Nice to tweet with you. #ChSocM Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:05 azrork |
9:05 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:05 theologybird |
9:05 | May the Holy Spirit to inspire our conversations & guide us to use social media wisely & well. Amen. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:05 chsocm |
9:05 | Amen. And Amen. Blessings to all here! #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:05 RevWeb |
9:06 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:06 RchrdBott |
9:06 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:06 PastorJoelle |
9:06 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:06 rev_david |
9:07 | Just sitting down to dinner, but will be joining the #chsocm chat a bit later. Carry on. Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:07 skenow |
9:07 | Next up: self-introductions. Please tell us your church affiliation, how you currently use social media & anything else! #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:07 chsocm |
9:07 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:07 expatminister |
9:07 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:07 SmilingKIJ |
9:07 | If I accidentally tweet from here about gymnastics, I hope you'll all understand. #OlympicObsessed #ChSocM Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:07 ohxjulie |
9:07 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:07 chsocm |
9:07 | Baltimore #Episcopal priest on bishop's staff. Using SM to connect and build community. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:07 RevWeb |
9:08 | And while you're checking in, here's the fine print: #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:08 chsocm |
9:08 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:08 SmilingKIJ |
9:08 | We’ll assume tweets during this chat are yours & do not represent your church or organization #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:08 chsocm |
9:08 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:08 RchrdBott |
9:08 | Remember we’re here to share with & support one another. Please use DM or email to pitch products/services. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:08 chsocm |
9:08 | Miranda #ELCIC lay person in Ottawa Canada tonight thinking about #BackToChurchSunday2013 and Social Media. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:08 mirgray |
9:08 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:08 azrork |
9:08 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:08 ohxjulie |
9:09 | (Oh, right, serving with a congregation in Metro Vancouver, BC) #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:09 RchrdBott |
9:09 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:09 mirgray |
9:09 | @rev_david You got a dog?! #Chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:09 theologybird |
9:09 | Moderating@meredithgould, sociologist, author, digital strategist & communications consultant, committed to ecumenism. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:09 chsocm |
9:10 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:10 chsocm |
9:10 | @theologybird Have had for some time. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:10 rev_david |
9:10 | United Methodist elder on leave, working toward PC(USA) ordination. Social media's a normal part of my life for eighteen years. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:10 maryanndimand |
9:10 | @rev_david How did I not know this? #Chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:10 theologybird |
9:10 | #chsocm ELCA interim pastor, use facebook some for church, twitter is still mostly for me & I like it that way Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:10 PastorJoelle |
9:11 | @chsocm Founder & CEO of @OurChurchDotCom, blogger, sometimes comm adviser for a CMA church in Clearwater, FL #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:11 paulsteinbrueck |
9:11 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:11 rev_david |
9:12 | Earlier today I posted a link to a new app called Twitter doghouse! See it? mashable.com/2012/07/29/twi… #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:12 chsocm |
9:12 | @RchrdBott #BackToChurchSunday2012 is Sept 30. We need some lead time to get people onboard. It's a recent decision. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:12 mirgray |
9:12 | @rev_david I think you must have been keeping the dog a secret. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:12 mirgray |
9:12 | @rev_david As a former (and future, hopefully, someday) cat servant, and current dog owner, I hear you on that one. #Chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:12 theologybird |
9:12 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:12 PastorJoelle |
9:13 | Does anyone else have a broken image/link in TweetChat? First one before the "reply" arrow. #ChSocM Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:13 ohxjulie |
9:13 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:13 mirgray |
9:13 | For tonight’s chat, thank @RchrdBott for sending a DM with topic suggestions & for writing a reflection about boundaries i/c/w --> #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:13 chsocm |
9:13 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:13 SmilingKIJ |
9:14 | @kaymarie122 So we're not irresistible? #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:14 chsocm |
9:14 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:14 theologybird |
9:14 | @theologybird @rev_david My best buddy now is Mozart the cat. Never liked them before. Happy to be on his staff now. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:14 RevWeb |
9:14 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:14 StPaulsB |
9:14 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:14 alanrud |
9:14 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:14 kaymarie122 |
9:14 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:14 theologybird |
9:14 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:14 chsocm |
9:14 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:14 azrork |
9:14 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:14 RchrdBott |
9:15 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:15 rev_david |
9:15 | @RevWeb: @theologybird @rev_david I love a good Mozart story. And cats. And dogs. Not so much birds as indoor pets. #Chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:15 theologybird |
9:15 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:15 PastorJoelle |
9:16 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:16 StPaulsB |
9:16 | @rev_david More dark matter, if you ask me. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:16 SmilingKIJ |
9:16 | In his reflection post, @RchrdBott calls for more intentionality & raises some key questions, so let's begin with topic one. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:16 chsocm |
9:16 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:16 ohxjulie |
9:16 | T1 Which boundaries are important for you to set and keep in your online relationships? #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:16 chsocm |
9:16 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:16 MeredithGould |
9:16 | Pastor blogging win! @wesmagruder doing radio show, tv news & daily paper from buzz on his blog newmethofesto.com #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:16 daryndez |
9:17 | @alanrud @kaymarie122 @chsocm oops, you just said 'lurker'! and now I just said 'lurker' ack. We are the knights who say 'Knee' #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:17 skenow |
9:17 | Speaking of boundaries I have so much fun being snarky on twitter I don't want my church to spoil my fun #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:17 PastorJoelle |
9:17 | A1: Kindness, goodness, faithfulness, etc. = fruits of the Spirit. #stillapplyonline #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:17 SmilingKIJ |
9:17 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:17 theologybird |
9:17 | @PastorJoelle I've thought the same. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:17 rev_david |
9:17 | A1: I want my "space" to be a mixing pot so not too much faith stuff and not too much geek stuff. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:17 mirgray |
9:18 | Gee, everyone is so feisty tonight. Love that in an online community! #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:18 chsocm |
9:18 | It's like T1 was written for me. I am a huge believer in boundaries. Btw kids/adults, teachers/parents, clergy/parish... #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:18 azrork |
9:18 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:18 rev_david |
9:18 | @PastorJoelle Have your people found you on Twitter? #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:18 SmilingKIJ |
9:18 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:18 mirgray |
9:18 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:18 paulsteinbrueck |
9:18 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:18 chsocm |
9:19 | Just a heads up: Will be tweeting from the #chsocm chat. If the fire hose is too much, use muuter.com. Thanks! Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:19 JustinWise |
9:19 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:19 rev_david |
9:19 | I will again state that my first rule for all sm is not to post things that I wouldn't want my Bishop to see. #Chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:19 theologybird |
9:19 | T1: Not many boundaries re: who I'll friend or follow, so I have to be conscious of what I'm posting. Nothing I would be ashamed of! #ChSocM Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:19 ohxjulie |
9:19 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:19 theologybird |
9:19 | RT @theologybird: I will again state that my first rule for all sm is not to post things that I wouldnt want my Bishop to see. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:19 rev_david |
9:19 | A1: My fb space is where I wish to continue to be me. If I have to majorly self-censor, I need to think about who are my friends. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:19 RchrdBott |
9:19 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:19 chsocm |
9:20 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:20 alanrud |
9:20 | I have 2 facebook pages. Keep family and old friends on 1, church folk on another. A personal twitter acct duznt conflict w/Dio acct #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:20 RevWeb |
9:20 | RT @paulsteinbrueck: RT @chsocm: T1 Which boundaries are important for you to set and keep in your online relationships? #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:20 AllOCC1 |
9:20 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:20 alanrud |
9:21 | T1a: How do you articulate what those boundaries are? #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:21 chsocm |
9:21 | @RchrdBott that's how I feel. My personal fb page is personal & I'm protective of who I let on as my friend. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:21 kaymarie122 |
9:21 | I think that online communities break down boundaries, not always a good thing. We need to allow our clergy, etc. private lives. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:21 azrork |
9:21 | T1: I don't make public "corrective" comments to kids I've worked with in youth min. It's embarrassing & hinders ministry. #ChSocM Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:21 ohxjulie |
9:22 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:22 azrork |
9:22 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:22 powe2550 |
9:22 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:22 RchrdBott |
9:22 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:22 alanrud |
9:22 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:22 MeredithGould |
9:22 | T1a: I haven't really articulated boundaries aloud, I just kind of go with my gut if I feel a violation on the horizon. #ChSocM Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:22 ohxjulie |
9:22 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:22 theologybird |
9:23 | I have 3 specific followers in mind each time I tweet. Nothing I tweet should be guaranteed to offend any one of them. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:23 mirgray |
9:23 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:23 azrork |
9:23 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:23 alanrud |
9:23 | RT @chsocm: Our chat has gotten some super-great press lately. Last week, @thelutheran: bit.ly/MVKYWB. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:23 AaronMcGallegos |
9:23 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:23 chsocm |
9:23 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:23 paulsteinbrueck |
9:23 | T1a: I'll mix it up -- If we're living our authentic self, why do we need to worry about artificial "boundaries"? #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:23 JustinWise |
9:23 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:23 chsocm |
9:23 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:23 StPaulsB |
9:24 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:24 theologybird |
9:24 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:24 ohxjulie |
9:24 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:24 mirgray |
9:24 | @RchrdBott What would be an example of something you'd post to explain your boundaries? #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:24 chsocm |
9:24 | RT @paulsteinbrueck: Cant think of many #sm boundaries other than not 2 share something I wouldnt want the world to see. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:24 JustinWise |
9:24 | T1 - I guess the boundary I use is self-control. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:24 rev_david |
9:24 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:24 mirgray |
9:24 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:24 alanrud |
9:24 | @JustinWise For some of us, our denominations set those boundaries. and, yes, they're artificial. :/ #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:24 RchrdBott |
9:25 | RT @rev_david: T1 - I guess the boundary I use is self-control. #Chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:25 theologybird |
9:25 | T1 - Not because I can't be myself, but because we are called to be careful in our words and relationships. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:25 rev_david |
9:25 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:25 StPaulsB |
9:25 | #chsocm <Great to peek in. Chat overlaps with kids bedtime, but with you in spirit!> Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:25 AaronMcGallegos |
9:25 | @JustinWise I don't buy that being "authentic =you act the same way in every circumstance One can be authentic & not fart in public #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:25 PastorJoelle |
9:25 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:25 azrork |
9:25 | Yeah, self control is big. Not always so good with it. Esp with watching my language. :-/ #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:25 SmilingKIJ |
9:25 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:25 alanrud |
9:25 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:25 RchrdBott |
9:25 | @RchrdBott Are those boundaries posted online anywhere? I'd love to take a peek! #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:25 JustinWise |
9:25 | #chsocm: In some circles, we call that "restraint of pen and tongue." I always add & email! Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:25 MeredithGould |
9:26 | T1a: I've seen several disclaimers in twitter bios stating that opinions do not reflect organization with which they're affiliated #ChSocM Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:26 ohxjulie |
9:26 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:26 RevWeb |
9:27 | @rev_david Self-control I get... but when other's don't have self-control, it can become a problem. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:27 RchrdBott |
9:27 | @RchrdBott Maybe your personal boundaries belong in the About me section of your pubic blog? #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:27 mirgray |
9:27 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:27 alanrud |
9:27 | @MeredithGould #Chsocm: In some circles, we call that "restraint of pen and tongue." I always add & email! #Chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:27 theologybird |
9:28 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:28 azrork |
9:28 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:28 paulsteinbrueck |
9:28 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:28 alanrud |
9:28 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:28 RevWeb |
9:28 | @JustinWise In my denom, it's *loosely* covered by a Sexual Abuse Prevention & Procedures policy. I'll see if I can find the link. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:28 RchrdBott |
9:28 | @RchrdBott @rev_david that's when i start looking for the line between lack of self-control and being a troll #Chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:28 theologybird |
9:28 | @paulsteinbrueck Party pooper. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:28 RevWeb |
9:28 | RT @paulsteinbrueck: T1: One other boundary is not to have flirty or heart to heart private convos w any women other than my wife. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:28 MeredithGould |
9:29 | @MeredithGould Big fan of disclaimers. Very helpful. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:29 JustinWise |
9:29 | @MeredithGould Sigh. Spelling in my downfall. Esp when I have hot pizza at hand. #forgiveme #editanyRT #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:29 mirgray |
9:29 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:29 alanrud |
9:29 | @paulsteinbrueck I wonder if that's a starting place - what are the real time boundaries that carry over to #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:29 RchrdBott |
9:29 | T1a: My take is that online boundary issues usually reveal an offline boundary issue. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:29 JustinWise |
9:30 | And now I'll be fooling around with concepts of blog waxing for hours. *sigh* @MeredithGould @mirgray #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:30 maryanndimand |
9:30 | RT @JustinWise: T1a: My take is that online boundary issues usually reveal an offline boundary issue. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:30 RevWeb |
9:30 | T2 How do you know if/when someone is violating one of your boundaries? #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:30 chsocm |
9:30 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:30 MeredithGould |
9:30 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:30 skenow |
9:30 | RT @JustinWise: T1a: My take is that online boundary issues usually reveal an offline boundary issue. // Agreed. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:30 paulsteinbrueck |
9:30 | @theologybird @RchrdBott Also, on my personal fb, I feel free to delete comments. Have only had to do it once. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:30 rev_david |
9:30 | @JustinWise but there is online w friends and online w/church just like there is me church and me w/friend authentic yet different #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:30 PastorJoelle |
9:31 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:31 rev_david |
9:31 | A2: If someone tries to suck me into a vortex, esp during time off. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:31 SmilingKIJ |
9:31 | @MeredithGould Tone is set from pulpit. We follow that with our tweets & FB postings. We delete or hide anything inappropriate. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:31 StPaulsB |
9:32 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:32 theologybird |
9:32 | Can anyone help me with the difference between creeping and stalking? #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:32 RchrdBott |
9:32 | RT @RchrdBott: Can anyone help me with the difference between creeping and stalking? #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:32 chsocm |
9:32 | T2 one flag is when I start to cringe every time I see their Nama/handle/avatar #Chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:32 theologybird |
9:32 | @PastorJoelle Agreed. I think the question you need to ask in both situations is, "am I being the most 'me' I can be?" #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:32 JustinWise |
9:32 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:32 mirgray |
9:33 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:33 alanrud |
9:33 | T2 - If (in a social media discussion) someone begins insulting/commenting on ppl, not the issue, then that is the end. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:33 rev_david |
9:33 | @RchrdBott I tend to differentiate the two between sexes. Men creep. Women stalk. Anyone else? #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:33 JustinWise |
9:33 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:33 theologybird |
9:33 | T2 Tweeting a DM in public stream or private msg on fb is pretty flagrant sign trust may be misplaced. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:33 RevWeb |
9:34 | @MeredithGould Constant monitoring. But for most part, it's not a problem. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:34 StPaulsB |
9:34 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:34 rev_david |
9:34 | T2: When I literally start to squirm in my seat. It's that gut feeling I mentioned before. #ChSocM Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:34 ohxjulie |
9:34 | T2 I've had the grievous experience of observing people tweet/share all sorts of stuff & have very public meltdowns #chsocm 1/2 Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:34 MeredithGould |
9:35 | @rev_david Didn't you write something about Luther's Explanation of the 8th Cmndmt? Applies online. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:35 SmilingKIJ |
9:35 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:35 mirgray |
9:35 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:35 skenow |
9:35 | My vigilant self-reminder: The only behavior I can control is my own. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:35 rev_david |
9:35 | Stalking is when you feel like you have a vested interest. Creeping is when you want to know just for kicks. #ChSocM Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:35 ohxjulie |
9:35 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:35 PastorJoelle |
9:35 | @RchrdBott I think of creeping as looking over someone’s SM without commenting or otherwise letting know you’re looking. #ChSocM Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:35 azrork |
9:36 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:36 SmilingKIJ |
9:36 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:36 MeredithGould |
9:36 | RT @rev_david: My vigilant self-reminder: The only behavior I can control is my own. // choice advice! #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:36 skenow |
9:36 | @SmilingKIJ Yes, but as applies to human rights. Certainly applies to social media, though! #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:36 rev_david |
9:36 | @SmilingKIJ Luther analogy for social media = win. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:36 JustinWise |
9:36 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:36 paulsteinbrueck |
9:36 | RT @rev_david: My vigilant self-reminder: The only behavior I can control is my own. // a good and hard lesson. #Chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:36 theologybird |
9:36 | @JustinWise Hmm, I wonder if I am stalking when I engage and they don't but I keep on going. #imagirl #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:36 mirgray |
9:36 | RT @rev_david: Here is a non-subscriber link to the full article about #chsocm in this month's @thelutheran bit.ly/MVKYWB Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:36 chsocm |
9:36 | RT @JustinWise: T1a: My take is that online boundary issues usually reveal an offline boundary issue. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:36 BretWortman |
9:37 | @MeredithGould FB overshares of parishioners tell me they need help but often afraid of getting sucked into never ending drama #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:37 PastorJoelle |
9:37 | T2a In the absence of physical cue, what cues are “readable” online? #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:37 chsocm |
9:37 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:37 MeredithGould |
9:37 | @JustinWise Luther would've loved SM, I think. He used the SM of his time. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:37 SmilingKIJ |
9:37 | @MeredithGould @RchrdBott Only my definition, but...yes. I creep on kids' profiles, etc. Just looking in to see what's up. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:37 azrork |
9:38 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:38 SmilingKIJ |
9:38 | T2a is why I've revised a much earlier anti-emoticon opinion. #Chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:38 theologybird |
9:38 | T2a: YELLING WITH CAPS LOCK. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:38 JustinWise |
9:38 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:38 MeredithGould |
9:38 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:38 skenow |
9:38 | We are to come to friend's defense, speak well of them, & interpret everything they tweet in the best possible light. #Lutherish #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:38 rev_david |
9:38 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:38 alanrud |
9:39 | A2a: Repeated dm-ing, not hearing 'stop, ppl in face-time repeatedly bringing up stuff you posted #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:39 RchrdBott |
9:39 | RT @rev_david: We are to come to friends defense, speak well of them, & interpret everything they tweet in the best possible light. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:39 mirgray |
9:39 | All caps makes me jump just as much as if you were in fact audible. Thanks @JustinWise #Chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:39 theologybird |
9:39 | T2a F-bombing & ongoing expressions of anger/rage. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:39 MeredithGould |
9:39 | @SmilingKIJ Great piece in The Economist some months ago on How Luther going viral. Google it. Worth the read. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:39 RevWeb |
9:39 | T2a: Pace and pace change are readble cues, especially in realtime online interaction. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:39 maryanndimand |
9:40 | RT @rev_david: We are to come to friends defense, speak well of them, & interpret everything they tweet in the best possible light. #Chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:40 theologybird |
9:40 | T2a. Invitations to sexualized conversation. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:40 RchrdBott |
9:40 | @maryanndimand Would you say more about pace and pace change? #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:40 MeredithGould |
9:40 | @maryanndimand Would you say more about pace and pace change? #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:40 chsocm |
9:40 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:40 paulsteinbrueck |
9:40 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:40 ohxjulie |
9:41 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:41 MeredithGould |
9:41 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:41 SmilingKIJ |
9:41 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:41 rev_david |
9:42 | Great stuff on reading online cues, something we about which we probably need to be more aware, eh? #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:42 chsocm |
9:42 | T2a: Conversely, I've had people get *very* upset with me after I unfollow them. Anyone else? #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:42 JustinWise |
9:42 | Here is a vague post that something is wrong! I won't tell you what it is! #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:42 rev_david |
9:42 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:42 SmilingKIJ |
9:42 | @paulsteinbrueck didn't you have a twitter imposter shadow you? #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:42 skenow |
9:43 | @rev_david And when people say "What's going on?" and the response is "None of your business" or "I don't want to talk about it." #ChSocM Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:43 ohxjulie |
9:43 | @JustinWise A colleague of mine unfollowed all but 3 people & only got a whiny complaint from 1 person. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:43 MeredithGould |
9:43 | @RchrdBott Vaguebooking - never heard that one before. Perfect term. #ChSocM Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:43 azrork |
9:43 | @MeredithGould I was in such a group - SM pastors who were unfollowed b/c of someone leaking private comments. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:43 alanrud |
9:43 | @JustinWise Yep. Creeped me out even more. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:43 SmilingKIJ |
9:43 | @rev_david That was about me, wasn't it. I'm sorry! Really. please don't unfriendly me!!!!! #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:43 RchrdBott |
9:43 | @RchrdBott Did you make up the term "vaguebooking" or did you find it somewhere? Very cool. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:43 MeredithGould |
9:44 | @JustinWise I don't see the point of unfollowing people. I just put the people I want to connect with on lists. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:44 paulsteinbrueck |
9:44 | Great segue to topic three... #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:44 chsocm |
9:44 | @JustinWise Yes. People in the congregation. :/ Made for some difficult real time ministry. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:44 RchrdBott |
9:44 | @JustinWise I never know how people know someone unfollows. How do they figure that out?!? #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:44 azrork |
9:45 | Pace/pace change signals: Post or remark acceleration, or abrupt cessation. @MeredithGould #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:45 maryanndimand |
9:45 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:45 JustinWise |
9:45 | @JustinWise Sort of, it is sad when people can't or don't want to stay at the social media table in disagreement #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:45 alanrud |
9:45 | @MeredithGould I'd love to take credit, but I'm sure I heard the term on fb. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:45 RchrdBott |
9:45 | @maryanndimand Thanks, helpful! #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:45 MeredithGould |
9:45 | @RchrdBott What did you tell them when they asked? #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:45 JustinWise |
9:45 | T2: Just remembered that I met a guy interested in sem and he started posting creepy fb statuses about me. Screenshotted for safety. #ChSocM Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:45 ohxjulie |
9:45 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:45 SmilingKIJ |
9:45 | RT @paulsteinbrueck: @JustinWise I dont see the point of unfollowing people. // you followed for a reason, why unfollow? #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:45 skenow |
9:45 | T3 How do you deal with violations of the boundaries you’ve set? #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:45 chsocm |
9:46 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:46 MeredithGould |
9:46 | @JustinWise Ah… I usually don’t notice until after long periods of no interaction. Then…who cares. #ChSocM Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:46 azrork |
9:46 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:46 kaymarie122 |
9:46 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:46 skenow |
9:46 | @SmilingKIJ Ah…makes sense. #ChSocM Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:46 azrork |
9:46 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:46 theologybird |
9:46 | @JustinWise That fb was my space, and that, since they were shocked about their minister posting something controversial... #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:46 RchrdBott |
9:46 | T3: Oops, jumped the gun with my last tweet! Lots of screenshots because it could have jeopardized my job. #ChSocM Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:46 ohxjulie |
9:47 | @paulsteinbrueck Lists are good in theory. But they take maintenance. I got frustrated w/ it. Like my current strat. way better. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:47 JustinWise |
9:47 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:47 rev_david |
9:47 | T3 I follow the principle that virtual community is real community & try to resolve issues in a private convo #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:47 MeredithGould |
9:47 | @JustinWise What's your current strategy? #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:47 MeredithGould |
9:47 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:47 RchrdBott |
9:47 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:47 ohxjulie |
9:48 | @PastorJoelle That's part of setting the tone, and we don't do it. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:48 StPaulsB |
9:48 | T3: Had a FB friend complain that I hadn’t let her in a filter to see pics while I was on vacay. I simply said it was my choice. #ChSocM Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:48 azrork |
9:48 | T3 And if that doesn't work, I unfollow or even block. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:48 MeredithGould |
9:48 | There are when others don't live by my boundaries for themselves and when other trample my boundaries #Chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:48 theologybird |
9:48 | RT @MeredithGould: T3 I follow the principle that virtual community is real community & try to resolve issues in a private convo #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:48 reckshow |
9:48 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:48 ohxjulie |
9:48 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:48 rev_david |
9:48 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:48 alanrud |
9:48 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:48 paulsteinbrueck |
9:48 | When my boundaries have been trampled it's usually been in the context of other things that have wound up on the Bp's desk. #Chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:48 theologybird |
9:49 | @MeredithGould Follow very small, select group of folks. Easier to maintain. More fun. Better results all around. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:49 JustinWise |
9:49 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:49 azrork |
9:49 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:49 remembermeclear |
9:49 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:49 mirgray |
9:49 | I post lots of vague, passive-aggressive posts about the behavior that has bothered me. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:49 rev_david |
9:49 | A3: depends on the person & my r-ship w/ them. Once I simply said I had to change my privacy settings & didn't say anymore. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:49 SmilingKIJ |
9:50 | #chsocm I have put people who get a little too personal or argue with every freaking status on limited so they can't see my posts for awhile Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:50 PastorJoelle |
9:50 | @PastorJoelle @paulsteinbrueck @JustinWise People feel offended, as if you’ve called them unworthy of following. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:50 ErikJFisher |
9:50 | @JustinWise So how do you expand your perspective(s) and grow? #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:50 MeredithGould |
9:50 | @MeredithGould Well, maybe being the worst is bad enough - you had to bring hell into it :) #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:50 alanrud |
9:50 | RT @rev_david: I post lots of vague, passive-aggressive posts about the behavior that has bothered me. // HAHAHAHAHA #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:50 SmilingKIJ |
9:50 | @rev_david Rat poison...real, rat...something. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:50 MeredithGould |
9:50 | @rev_david Oh yeah…you do that ALL the time! #ChSocM Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:50 azrork |
9:50 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:50 RchrdBott |
9:51 | RT @RchrdBott: Do your denominations/judicatories have #chsocm policies that set boundaries? #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:51 chsocm |
9:51 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:51 azrork |
9:51 | @JustinWise lists are still useful - like attending a cocktail party and moving between convos cc: @MeredithGould #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:51 skenow |
9:51 | @RchrdBott Raucous laughter.... #Chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:51 theologybird |
9:51 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:51 alanrud |
9:51 | @MeredithGould Group changes constantly. It usually hovers around 450, but it's a revolving door. Some stay, some go. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:51 JustinWise |
9:51 | lurking #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:51 Stevefogg |
9:52 | @JustinWise Makes sense. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:52 MeredithGould |
9:52 | @MeredithGould @JustinWise I assume ppl who don't follow me aren't interested in convo, bc they aren't listening #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:52 rev_david |
9:52 | @ErikJFisher @paulsteinbrueck @JustinWise Heh. Well if I've unfollowed them they are not worthy #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:52 PastorJoelle |
9:52 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:52 rev_david |
9:52 | <laughing> #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:52 chsocm |
9:52 | RT @Stevefogg: lurking // <-- non-participatory participation #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:52 skenow |
9:53 | @theologybird Yeah. Here too. And what we do have seems to be "social media is dangerous, so don't" #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:53 RchrdBott |
9:53 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:53 rev_david |
9:53 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:53 azrork |
9:53 | RT @azrork: I think @MeredithGould needs to build a big boundary around @rev_david during #ChSocM chat. Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:53 rev_david |
9:53 | Coming to the end of the hour. Any words of wisdom...on anything? #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:53 chsocm |
9:53 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:53 RevWeb |
9:54 | @rev_david See, I think that's faulty logic. Someone can still have a conversation with you if they're not following. Right? #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:54 JustinWise |
9:54 | We have disclaimers/rules on the FB page. I've only had to block 1 so far. That was after about 7 strikes not 3... #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:54 sethhinz |
9:54 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:54 MeredithGould |
9:54 | @RchrdBott No one says that in front of me anymore. But still working on getting ppl to actual use. #Chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:54 theologybird |
9:54 | Thought of another boundary! I don't post the names/conditions of people asking for prayer unless given express permission. #ChSocM Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:54 ohxjulie |
9:54 | @PastorJoelle I'd rather avoid the unfollow drama. I follow everyone back & use lists to view tweets of ppl I want to see. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:54 paulsteinbrueck |
9:54 | @Stevefogg 'how do you deal with those that have crossed your boundaries' #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:54 skenow |
9:54 | @JustinWise True. But they have taken a stance of not listening. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:54 rev_david |
9:54 | RT @rev_david: My vigilant self-reminder: The only behavior I can control is my own. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:54 wyndall93 |
9:55 | @RchrdBott And the Olympics are not helping with that conversation with the athletes getting thrown out. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:55 mirgray |
9:55 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:55 Stevefogg |
9:55 | My only words of wisdom - we need to think about our social media boundaries as extensions of our daily life ones. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:55 RchrdBott |
9:55 | RT @MeredithGould: @azrork Nah, @rev_david is one of the major delight lights in my #chsocm life. // **blushing** #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:55 rev_david |
9:55 | Yah! Get your tweetin, fb-in digits off me! #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:55 RevWeb |
9:55 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:55 alanrud |
9:55 | @chsocm I'd love 2 hear ppl's thoughts on "5 Truths About Online and Offline Relationships" occ.tc/MwC3sd #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:55 paulsteinbrueck |
9:55 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:55 azrork |
9:55 | @paulsteinbrueck Are you afraid of what will happen if you unfollow people? cc: @PastorJoelle #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:55 JustinWise |
9:55 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:55 MeredithGould |
9:56 | Being a layperson makes it easier to be forthright. Clergy are more bound by their leadership. Plus, I'm over people-pleasing! #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:56 ofredrick |
9:56 | @paulsteinbrueck Never had unfollow drama. If I did I'd just block them #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:56 PastorJoelle |
9:56 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:56 theologybird |
9:56 | But seriously folks, common sense should rule. Good IRL boundaries apply here too. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:56 RevWeb |
9:56 | RT @MeredithGould: @alanrud Interesting...I think Id say take #chsocm seriously but not yourself too seriously. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:56 RchrdBott |
9:56 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:56 B_RockW |
9:56 | RT @paulsteinbrueck: I'd love 2 hear ppl's thoughts on "5 Truths About Online & Offline Relationships" occ.tc/MwC3sd #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:56 chsocm |
9:56 | Boundary: I hate sarcasm. Soooo much. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:56 rev_david |
9:56 | When things seem to be speeding/heating up it's good to slow down, listen excellently, and narrate carefully. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:56 maryanndimand |
9:57 | @Stevefogg previous Qs: what are your boundaries and how do you know when ppl cross them (without physical interaction)? #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:57 skenow |
9:57 | Love this community. #Chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:57 theologybird |
9:57 | Our boundaries are posted at facebook.com/milcms #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:57 sethhinz |
9:57 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:57 theologybird |
9:57 | @MeredithGould nothing wrong with that #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:57 alanrud |
9:57 | Really wonderful stuff tonight. I <3 this group & am nourished by it! #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:57 chsocm |
9:57 | RT @rev_david: Boundary: I hate sarcasm. Soooo much. // LOL! #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:57 paulsteinbrueck |
9:57 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:57 Stevefogg |
9:57 | @rev_david That's why we're friends. Mutually opposed to sarcasm #Chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:57 theologybird |
9:57 | And I have a Person of Interest to watch now so see ya next week, y'all. Great chat. Cheers. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:57 RevWeb |
9:57 | @rev_david really? #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:57 skenow |
9:58 | @rev_david But sarcasm is my native tongue. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:58 ofredrick |
9:58 | Coming up on the hour, as usual, we conclude with this prayer from Compline: #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:58 chsocm |
9:58 | Guide us waking, O Lord, and guard us sleeping; that awake we may watch with Christ & asleep we may rest in peace #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:58 chsocm |
9:59 | Interesting RT @chsocm: It's Tuesday! #chsocm chat night 9PM ET. Some background for our chat: bit.ly/MWZ8F6. All are welcome! Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:59 Kristinruther |
9:59 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:59 chsocm |
9:59 | The transcript of tonight’s chat will be posted on churchsocmed.blogspot.com within a few hours. #chsocm #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:59 chsocm |
9:59 | Amen and amen. Thanks all! PBWY #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:59 RchrdBott |
9:59 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 9:59 skenow |
10:00 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 10:00 rev_david |
10:00 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 10:00 chsocm |
10:00 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 10:00 chsocm |
10:00 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 10:00 chsocm |
10:00 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 10:00 ohxjulie |
10:00 | @JustinWise Correct, not listening *to me.* I would call that a central missing element in a conversation. #chsocm Tuesday July 31, 2012 10:00 rev_david |
10:00 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 10:00 azrork |
10:01 | Tuesday July 31, 2012 10:01 chsocm |
The topics:
T1: Which boundaries
are important for you to set and keep in your online relationships?
T1a: How do you
articulate what those boundaries are?
T2: How do you know
if/when someone is violating one of your boundaries?
T2a: In the absence of physical cue, what cues are “readable”
online?
T3: How do you deal
with violations of the boundaries you’ve set?
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